Weekly Psyche

Sometimes, if we would like something from another human being, a child, a mate, a parent. Sometimes the simplest of acts are never performed. Usually we just have to ask for it. It sounds so simple. Most of the time, we go along with inner dialogue, listening to our internal voice complain. Move and self pity, when all we have to do is ask.

There was an experiment done in New Jersey, on the beach during a busy summer season, where a researcher left his radio on the beach near a cluster of strangers and walked away, feigning as if he was going to go to the refreshment bar. As he left, of course he had hired someone to walk over and pick up the radio and walk the other way and steal it. All the strangers merely watched the action take place; the theft.

The next time the researcher came over, and before he left for the refreshment bar, her asked the strangers if they would watch his radio. Here comes the thief. He picks up the radio and walks off. Two of the strangers follow and retrieve the radio. Very interesting, if you want something we have to ask for it and the asking creates a human bond. Why is that significant? By asking, it puts us in a submissive role and it puts the receiver in a role of power, like a parent. The human being wants to fulfill the bond. It’s a genetic bond. It’s a bond of the tribe of the civilization. It’s the bond of wanting to be apart of something bigger. It’s simple; if we want something, we just have to ask.

I was sitting with a married couple one evening and the wife looks at the husband and says “he leaves for the weekend to involve himself in all his hobbies and he doesn’t even ask and he comes home extremely late”. I said “he merely bolts?” She says “No, he asks if he can go the event and if it is okay or not and then I don’t see him for seven hours. Sometimes he says he’ll be back in an hour and then it turns into seven hours.” I said “well, he was polite to ask and let you know. Did you ever ask him to come home at a specific time?” She said “no”.

If we want something, we should ask for it. If you ask for it, you shall receive because of that need of the human bond and the nature of the human being to be submissive and other, the being of power. Or as I said on my other post The power of a Handshake, “whose on top and whose on the bottom”. So remember, if you’d like something, just open up and ask. Don’t listen to the little internal voice. This if your Weekly Dr. B reminding you that, we are not alone.