Weekly Psyche

The eyes tell us who we are. Joseph Campbell, the guru of mythology, tells us that in evolution, the eyes were the last sense to develop. It’s the infancy of human development. Therefore, we are curious animals and we love to see ourselves. This is why we have a fascination with film and television. Each sitcom in a decade reflects back on who we are and we love to watch ourselves in action; it’s hypnotic.

When teaching classes at the university to graduate students, I help them to finally understand that there are laws of human behavior that govern our actions and reactions and how we interact is not chaos but we can manage and control and direct. Like government propaganda reprogramming the human being. Once they have this understanding, I ask them: “what do you appear to be to the people that see you? You stand in front of your students on a daily basis. Do you know what you project to them? Do you control what you project? If you do not, then you are out of control and you are allowing the environment and other people to determine what you teach and how you direct.”

In a counseling session with an individual, a young adult that wanted to attract relationships. She sat and she scowled and grimaced. I brought her over to a mirror and I said “look upon yourself. Is that the person that attracts other people?” She began to cry. “We begin communication through body language. 99% of communication is body language and you project the things you do not want”. The eyes were the last sense to develop and we are curious animals.

I had a meeting in a managers office and right behind the desk was a very powerful man, and right behind this man was a very powerful mirror; it was huge. I thought “my god, what an ego this man has. He loves to turn around and look at himself.” And yet the curiosity got the best of me and I said “why do you have a mirror on the wall behind your desk.” He said it was quite simple “when customers or clients come in and they’re angry and they’re emotional and neurotic, I move to one side when they’re speaking to me so that they can view themselves in the mirror and see exactly what they’re projecting. They are able to see the imbalance and neuroticness of their behavior and immediately, they restructure what they see to project what they desire without having to have verbal communication.”

What do you project? What do you’re children see? What does your spouse view as you walk in at the end of the day or at the beginning of the day? What about the people that you work with? Do you control or are you manipulated like a puppet? The eyes; we love to view ourselves and we love to view others. We can control this pattern of behavior. Look in the mirror on a daily basis and go through the moods and your swings and see what you project. Are you reactive or are proactive? You can take control through one of the last senses of human development. You can make sense of it.

This is your Weekly Dr. B reminding you that, We are not alone.

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