Weekly Psyche

Today I want to talk about fiefdoms, old ladies and gossip. Those are usually very important tribal ingredients that keep the activity of the human being alive. A fiefdom is a medieval term in which rulers would gather power structure around them, usually by developing a certain number of solders or knights and rent out his land to individuals who would pay him back in the amount of food that they make. They were called serfs.

Each one of these powerful kings or kingdoms was called a fiefdom and there were many. Whole countries would be broken into fiefdoms. That’s how countries were ruled before they became one united nation. It is still a power structure in which individuals, principals of schools or large institutions, rule other people. They go in and form alliances with specific individuals in management and then they gather information on an ongoing basis on other people in which to manage behind the lines. This is called fiefdom management. It’s interesting to watch people manage in this particular style as we observe schools and institutions.

Old Ladies:
I was walking through a nursing home the other day and a 95 year old women said “In four years, I’ll practically be 100 years old.” I said “well, there is much you have seen and there has much you know. You are someone that I call ‘has wisdom’, why don’t you share this wisdom with me?” I shared with her how some managers or individuals develop power by developing fiefdoms. I was curious why they just weren’t candid and go directly to people. The old lady looked at me and said “They are practicing what most people love to do the most while they are here on the planet. They love to gossip. They love to go in a reach out to other people. Gossip and hold these little nuggets of gossip and go throughout the tribe and talk to other people. This is what delights them most; the world of gossip”.

Interesting! Wisdom through the elderly in our tribe, which are now in the nursing homes. Fiefdoms are an interesting way to control other people, old ladies and gossip. You know, we all like to gossip. They say that is how language actually developed. Are you someone who rules through fiefdoms in your own family structure? Think about it. This is Weekly Dr. B reminding you that, We are not alone.