Weekly Psyche

Any time delayed gratification is removed from the social structure of learned or taught behaviors, we have a decline in the social fabric. Without delayed gratification, an individual cannot take the necessary time to learn necessary behaviors for survival. Until three generations ago, this was not an issue because mother nature was the flawless teacher. 90% of human beings lived an agrarian life of farming. Small family farms that dictated, “Those who did not plant did not reap. And those who do not reap do not eat.” This required the concept of “delayed gratification.” But now all pain oriented learning required of our children is outlawed by the state. Our young children have been taught by our institutions, that on a whim, they can call the authorities and have their elders imprisoned with a “story of anxiety,” natures teachings are inverted.

Our young express anger because they are allowed to make the rules which means there are no rules or structure to this game of life. This, in turn, means there cannot be expressions of love which is own of the foundations of family structure. Love here is being defined as the ability to create accountability for child behavior patterns. Some tribes of the American Indian, when the young male reached puberty, would take the male child 7 days walk away from the tribal structure.  When the child found his way back to the tribe, mother nature had taught him the need for tribal structure.  The child had purpose and larger structure to respect.  Today, the child would call social services or the police and elder Indians would be jailed. And the child would be given all that they desired with cry and a sigh.  Which is the exhibition of crib behaviors, the instinctual survival behaviors of a baby human (crying and screaming for their needs to be met). But now, instead of the parents running to pamper and change  the child, it is the state. But what happens when not only “delayed gratification learning” is forbidden by  the state but family structure is being nurtured by the state that can no longer learn the concept of “delayed gratification”?  If these state nurtured families were left on the family farm 3 generations ago, these state nurtured families would have perished from starvation. But what if not one family, but the majority of families in the farming community could no longer till their plot ground?

Although this post falls under the category of “Parenting Tips,” it’s impact falls much deeper to the fabric of the break down of social structure, where the young become restless and destructive,  because it deals with the destruction of the family. Our larger-social structure is built around the foundations of healthy family dynamics.  If the family is unhealthy, then the community must assist and sometimes absorb the individuals of this broken family. But normally each family represents mini-bricks that build the wall of our social structure that are cinder blocks to our nation. Healthy family, healthy nation.  Sick family, sick nation. But what if too many families begin to show signs of sickness due to gradual infiltration of the states interference posing itself as “caring beneficence.”

When did this begin you may ask?   Franklyn Delano Roosevelt?  Lyndon B. Johnson?   I am going to take you on a trail and tell a tale and allow you to determine the extrapolation of its consequences.  When once telling this story to a knot of psychologists at cocktail party, they would disperse very quickly with their eyes twitching from side to side as if they feared the state could read their thoughts. The world thought it rid itself of the Goebbels and Himmler’s of the twentieth century.

This should be the  foundation for a work of science fiction.  But it is not a book-tale.  This is your tale.  I have run out of space and time.  Read my next post to finish this story on today’s parenting gone awry.  Peter pan without a happy ending.

This dr b reminding you that we are not alone.